Comment #39247


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This is exactly the kind of thing I hate reading. Someone loses faith, posts that Pseudo should 'go outside and get a life', and gives unwanted advice and otherwise. The thing that bothered me most about this comment in particular was the last sentence, which essentially stated 'if you can't get over it, people shouldn't come here.' That's just bad logic there.

I don't know why I'm commenting here other than to say, if you truly feel this way, then keep it to yourself. Nobody wants to hear this parroted over and over. It isn't helping.

Half the time the person posting says this, but has no idea what social anxiety and depression are actually 'like'... or if they do, they don't understand it in the right way. Depression isn't something you just 'get over'. You can't 'change yourself' so quickly, like you seem to suggest... it's illogical.

I've dealt with depression for years. Hell, I can say it dominated my life at some point. When someone hasn't gone through something like this, this is the kind of comment that is generated...

Anyway, I'm just throwing in my opinion. Take it for what you will, but I stand firm in this belief. I don't know why I bothered to comment here, again, other than to vent what I feel about such comments here. *sigh*

That's all I have to say.

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Within the past month, Pseudo has posted several blog posts (on the Alora Fane site) where he basically says "my life is really bad". I remember him doing this occasionally *years* ago, so I can only assume he's been doing it every-so-often since I left. Maybe it's just my imagination, but he writes as if he is worse off now than he was 5 years ago.
I do not have social anxiety, but I do have depression. I understand how bad it is, and I am not saying that lightly.
Something has to change. Pseudo can't just spend the next 40 years doing what he's been doing for the last 4. And although it seems obvious that he'll "get better" before then, it isn't given. If, in the next 40 years, he feels to depressed or anxious to go outside and get a job every day, then he will be a 66 year old man who may have the record for "most miserable life". At some point, he needs to take that first step.
This was hard to accept for me when I was dealing with some similar (but less severe) problems. I blew it off as corny, "Disney Musical" level advice. But really, if you don't feel like going outside today, you probably won't do anything tomorrow. And if you couldn't muster up the strength to go by then, you probably aren't going to be able to anytime this week, or month. And if you're social anxiety has stopped you from making friends or getting a job all month, what makes you think it will magically get better anytime next year? Or the year after?
And if he hasn't made that step in the past few years, what makes you think he will make it on his own? What evidence do you have that Pseudo, left to his own devices, will overcome/cope with his problems?

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Pseudo doesn't need a job. He needs a girlfriend 😉