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Pseudolonewolf
4 years ago

An Update to Blurbs

◊ Posted by A β Pseudolonewolf
Categories: BlurbsFeatures The Site
I mentioned blurbs sarcastically in the post I wrote a few hours ago...

I've always found it interesting to know what people think of other people - gossip interests me - especially when I wonder if others think the same way about someone as I do...
Like if I find someone grating, it's reassuring and cathartic to know that I'm not the only one who feels that way.

I added the blurbs feature so then people could express their honest opinions about individuals anonymously, so you'd know if you'd upset people or made them happy. Or something.

The blurbs page can be a great way to learn about a person... but of course, the anonymity leads to some truly nasty blurbs that aren't even accurate, leading to people getting the wrong idea about the unfortunate victim by reading such things about them.

I've added a feature now where you can respond to blurbs that you get, in order to tell your side of the story. You can learn even more about someone from their replies than you can from the things that others say about them, and hopefully being able to respond rather than just sitting and taking the abuse will make some people feel better about the system.

So yes, please use this feature sensibly. I bet I'm going to go through my own blurbs page with a headache and many sighs, explaining the various reasons behind my many faults that people have oh-so-abrasively pointed out.
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JiQi
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JiQi 28 Poland PhlegmaticMelancholic INTJ 9w1 15C
I agree somehow with anakin123.
When someone rewrites a responded blurb, the response should at least be marked as 'outdated'. Or something like this.
Please think about this, Pseudolone.

Anyway, it's a good thing. If I ever get a blurb, I'll surely reply asap. (That is, say, in a month :-)

signed: Your humble servant
anakin123
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anakin123 18 Belgium MelancholicPhlegmatic INFJ 459 282C
i think i should mention that this reply option can be easily abused. If you change a blurb when a response is written, it can make the responder look awfully bad if the blurber knows how to write his blurb right.
Anderty
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Anderty 25 Latvia MelancholicPhlegmatic INTJ 451 10C
Interesting concept, with great pontention, but, of course, still need so much to calibrate and finish to more fair system. Sadly I don't like such idea in this way: My point of view is that I preffer met person by myself, that way, I know him only by my experience. I never listen anything 'bout that person from other's, cuz, you know, there's always some lie. As well, people like do bad things, that's why I, again, never listen other thoughts on others and try to confront myself.

Second thing, why this idea isn't so good for internet - masks. There's people like me, who wear masks and show themselves not in the way they are. (We all wear masks in internet by deffault). But I mean real life - there's only one person, who know me purely and can feel, how I feel. Others, instead, see only my social mask and never knows my true thoughs (Which saddens me). So, what does all this gibberish mean?

That mean, that other people thoughts - are just they're thoughts. Ideally, You'll never consider to know them, cuz most precious expireince with person you meet is most precious.

This may look like I'm disappointed in humankind (which, particularly is true... but only in unreal term - skill to read each other's feelings... they still lack in humans...), but don't take it as abuse. It's only normal, to offense other thoughs, when you know, that you estimate youre own thoughts above all.
TGE
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TGE 21 United States PhlegmaticSanguine INTP 25C
I really like this new addition. I've always been hesitant to leave a blurb because it just seems rude to me. I wouldn't talk about someone behind their back in real life, so I wouldn't do it on the internet. But now, with the ability to reply, a blurb is less about painting a picture of a defenseless person, and more about giving honest criticism or praise.
TGE
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TGE 21 United States PhlegmaticSanguine INTP 25C
Sorry, my comment was submitted twice. Ignore this one.
NeonXP
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NeonXP 26 Switzerland PhlegmaticMelancholic INTJ 631 35C
Admittedly, I've had passing thoughts about such a concept as this on Fighunter. I believe that the ability to respond to blurbs from others will let the community better respond with how they feel. Unfortunately, there is, of course, another issue that is unavoidable, and that is people who feel that they are victim to "bad blurbs" retort with "flame" comments to every single blurb they receive; yet become over-generous to those who post a positive blurb that they agree on. Luckily, it's an optional thing.

That aside, perhaps there are some extras that could come with this feature at later dates. For example, someone that has received a blurb, or a response to a blurb they've posted, could get a message in their inbox (perhaps toggled on and off from settings). And as my peers have suggested, some sort of rating system: this could be a black and white "Agree/Disagree" system - but this type of system has already proven quite vague. Otherwise, it could be a variation of the FLIGS system, that is either open to rating by everybody, or by just the "blurbee".

Anyway, I think that the suggestions I have given are just for my own fantasizing, and that the system you have already implemented is sufficient. I'm sure that with time, the quality and effectiveness of the blurb replies will become apparent, and with that, improvements can be made from there.
Pseudolonewolf
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All the blurbs and their replies do is paint a picture of the person... so before, if you someone who had a lot of negative blurbs, especially if they agreed with eachother, you might be led to think that they're not a very nice person. If that person then replied to these blurbs with abrasive hostility, then all it'd do is confirm what the blurbs were saying, and it'd provide useful information in that way.

Adding a rating system for blurbs has come up a few times... but it's far too overly complicated for such a relatively minor feature, so things will most likely stay as they are.
fieldmarker
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I really like the new feature, as I'm always afraid of offending someone whithout my knowledge. I can properly apologize to people setting a negative blurb for me, instead of just hoping I never said something rude to someone. I just hope that this new addition won't be abused by people constantly bothering you with fake apologies, just to get rid of an honest opinion.
Alt
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Alt 20 Northern Mariana Islands MelancholicSanguine INFJ 4w3 32C
I read your response to the blurb saying this website had a 'cult-of-personality' flavor and it struck a chord within me.

When I moved back to the CNMI I of course had to attend a new school (this was 8th grade) and my new classmates just hated me almost as a whole. From one person telling me to 'Shut up!' almost every time I talked to another calling me 'white trash', I slowly grew to hate my lot in life.

While these were minor slights, all of them, they built up into me actually changing my personality and general mannerisms to suit them. Before, I could have easily been a Choleric/Sanguine but now I feel much too morose to fall into that category.

Not to say that my classmates are Melancholy; most of them are abrasive and extroverted, but they certainly hammered me down into a new, suppressed personality.

However, I don't hate all of them, I actually have made good friends with some of the more understanding personalities in my class, but I still feel as if I'm treated as a 'second-class citizen' by some of them, from not being invited to parties and being referred to with derogatory terms jokingly.
idea bulb
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How grand, now the protection of annonimity is removed, causing the person who writes the blurb have a danger of being responded to and the blurb itself being exposed as a falsehood. I seem to be a magnet of "hate blurbs" so this feature will most likely be used by me quite often. I thank you Pseudowolf for allowing people to place a defense of their character from formally untouchable malefactors.
Lloyd13z
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Neat addition, and I'm glad that it should help. I think it will be beneficial, since I looked over your Blurbs. On that note...

Though I do think what you said is true about getting to know someone, the Internet in general is KNOWN for bias and exaggeration. You have to take everything with a grain of salt. Even the good ones - some of yours boost you up like a God. Not that you aren't, but I'm sure those people were ones to bow to those they wish to impress. Or maybe not - the anonymity hides it. Either good or bad, the chance is there.

So take your Blurbs for example. I actually laughed at all the bad ones, because... they were just so cliche! You see those kinds of posts anywhere from people who don't understand certain things about disorders or personal affairs. And that's the heart of it - they don't understand. And similarly, the REALLY good ones don't have a perfect understanding either. So it's all in the grand scheme of things, I think. Do you have your flaws? Sure. Do they make you any less of what the good Blurbs say? Not at all. You lie somewhere in the middle of it all, so don't take the extremists to heart.