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Pseudolonewolf
6 years ago

Introvert Site Thing Again

◊ Posted by A β Pseudolonewolf
Categories: Introversion
A while ago, I made a site for introverted people to share their thoughts with eachother, in order to get things off their chests and receive supportive feedback and stuff.

I haven't mentioned it in a while, but it's been active and I have been using it a lot and it's been very beneficial to me.

There aren't many people there at the moment, though; only around 20. I've decided to keep it as a small exclusive club... but I'd still like to invite other people who seem right for it.

I'm hoping to find more females though, to keep the gender ratio balanced. Currently the ratio is 55% male, which is much better than here where it's like 90% male, so I want to keep the ratio about the same. It's frustrating to me being around guys all the time...

I mentioned last time that I only want to invite people over the age of 16... I might knock that up to 18. It's not for children.

Effectively it's like a close-knit social group at this point - I don't have an in-person friendship group so I'm trying to build one up in this way, I suppose - and we're looking for other introverted people seeking that kind of environment, which is non-critical, supportive, and understanding of things like shyness and anxiety and things like that. It stresses empathy and understanding over advice-giving or criticism.

You're able to fill out a profile much like this site, which you can use to write 'Thoughts', which are sort of like status updates on Facebook (from what little I know of them) or blog posts on sites like LiveJournal. The Thoughts are a way of saying what's on your mind though rather than what activities you've been up to; it was designed so that people who don't 'have a life' would not feel left out; for people who don't like Facebook. For people who aren't constantly going out and who don't even want to.

So anyway, I'm looking for more people to potentially invite over there. So if you're gentle, empathetic, supportive rather than critical, not snarky, over 18, preferably female, and are looking for an online social group sort of thing to keep you company and stuff, then I'd be interested in hearing from you!

Though you'll have to tell me a bit about yourself so then I know whether the site would be appropriate for you.
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Dr D
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Dr D 21 Canada SanguineMelancholic ENTJ 388 71C
I fit all the requirements execpt the gender and age (by 6 months). my mom and friends would call me an introvert. I don't really go out at all unless it's to see my girlfriend or to go to school. I'm usually quite shy around people that arn't family (It helps if I wear glasses but it's kind of acquard for the other person) some times I just feel left out. [I hope know on reads this] I like the idea of it being a small group. and most of the time I just need to say something, about something that others might find interessting. um ya. So, please consider me.
Bilious
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Bilious 32 United Kingdom MelancholicSanguine INFJ 379 4C
I originally sent this as a PM, but your last post made it clear you're not particularly keen on them. Since I sent this my wife has seen your post, and thinks it sounds like a good fit for her.

Hi Pseudolonewolf

I read your relatively recent post regarding the introvert site you're a part of. While I doubt that I'd be a good fit for it myself it does sound like a community my wife could be an active part of. I'll be showing her what you've already written about it tomorrow, to see what she thinks, but if there are any additional things to bear in mind it would be great to hear them. What information would she need to give for you to decide whether to offer an invitation?

On a separate note, since I'm already talking to you, I'd like to let you know that I greatly enjoy the Mardek and Raider games. Clarence's Big Chance wasn't quite so much to my taste, though it was still a lot of fun. It will be interesting to see your take on the monster companion genre once you finalise Miasmon for release, do you intend to put it on Kongregate?

I hope you are well

Gavin
Stormrain
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That new site would be pretty interesting in itself. If I was female, I'd probably fit the profile.

That being said though, I've been an introvert for quite a few years. Throughout school I kept to myself when I could, despite bullying/etc (which I did manage stop, btw). Noone there really wanted to know me, and since I knew a good deal about them, I just ignored them 90% of the time. It wasn't till the last couple years or so when I went to a couple activities and been on a few trips, that I started to somewhat make an effort to meet/talk with new people. With the exception of one activity, it has been nearly all girls, which still surprises me mostly because I keep thinking that, most I meet are probably going to be more like the girls I know where I live, which they aren't. Through those experiences, I've gradually been at least feeling more comfortable when I'm in a new place and meeting people (and talking to girls).

That all being said, I think I'll always be Introverted, at least until I find someone I trust enough to talk to. On here, the trust thing is different, and I generally don't worry about as much anymore.
Blink
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Blink 25 United States CholericMelancholic ENTP 8w7 37C
I don't fit any of the requirements and have no intention on asking for an invitation, however I am really glad that so many people are interested and that it seems to be helping you Psuedo. I just got back from a cruise in the Gulf of Mexico and feel so much better after meeting new people and sharing good times with them, even if it was only for five days. I think the introvert site might be doing a similar thing for you (meeting new people like you to talk to etc.).

Have a nice week!
jaredino
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I suppose I can understand the whole age limit thing, and I wish you best of luck on the site, I am simply disappointed for one reason. I was hoping to get to know pseudo a little bit better if I were to be a part of that site. Pseudo is kind of my hero, in a way, since from the blog posts he HAS made he seems to be going through a lot of similar things, and is certainly doing better at coping with them than I. But I suppose one day I might get to be good friends with him, at the very least have some sort of interaction beyond what has happened. I guess i can wait, so I wish you best of luck on your website, and I hope you start some meaningful relationships with people you can relate to.
John Flame
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Amusing.
I seem to only fit in one requirement,being introverted.

It is easy to see how much of a good influence it is on you,your posts are more optimistic,straight to business and overall more energetic.
I truly wish you sucess on this one.
Anubis
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This is a very interesting concept. I wouldn't mind trying it out if you'd have me. Though I wouldn't consider myself a complete introvert because I do attempt to get out into the world I do often find myself lacking connections with over 95% of people I meet. But yeah, I'm very interested in seeing what happens with this site.
GhostFreakage
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Hi, I just joined this site, but I've been visiting this site very often to see any new updates on the upcoming Miasmamon and hopefully the next few chapters of Mardek! I am a guy, age of 18 so I fit in the age group you are looking for. I am a gentle and supportive person who loves to talk with people of similar interests. I have a very free and open mind that leads to good ideas and supportive comments. I am very accepting of others and their ideas and can bounce off a few ideas to help those who are struggling with coming up with that perfect idea they are trying to reach. I am a hard-working and active student that has been playing video games since I was 4. I don't know what else to put, if you have any questions you can always look at what I put up on my profile or send me a message. Hopefully you consider me to join!
Drasnian Elf
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I'd be interested, although I'm female, so wouldn't really help the balance.

I've been a bit of a loner my entire life; during secondary school I only actually spoke to people online and never ventured out of the house other than for school (which I regularly bunked in order to get home and online to talk to people I trusted). Needless to say, I wasn't a very happy kid.. I suffered from depression (until a couple of years ago) and rarely got more than an hour or two of sleep in any one night.

My main worry, which kind of caused the whole thing, was that of spending my life without anyone (a girlfriend/wife), which isn't a good mix when you're far too anxious to approach anyone, let alone girls, in public, and certainly not speak to them. Thus, other than primary school (does that count?), I've only ever gone out with girls I've met online (only one of whom, my current girlfriend of 2 and a half years, have I actually met IRL).

If it wasn't for the people I met online during those few years, I wouldn't be around now writing this message, so I do really believe that you don't need to meet someone for them to mean a hell of a lot to you.

All that said, I'm not as unable to talk to people IRL as I used to be; I've made a couple of friends at Uni. It still takes me a lot of willpower (and stress) to convince myself to go outdoors to see people, though; I'm in a gaming club at Uni and, even though I'd say gaming is my main passion, I get nervous about going to that. Oh, and I certainly don't go out to do all these 'popular' activities for students etc.; my biggest complaint about Uni has been the noise and drunkenness of people around me. Make of that what you will.

Anyway, yes, I'd certainly be interested in joining and hope that I'd be able to add to the spirit of the community there.
Drasnian Elf
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I forgot to add an explanation of why I stopped being active on this site.

Basically, whilst there were several people who helped try to make me feel at home and welcomed me, I felt quite alienated by some of the community, including some people being needlessly rude before they'd even spoken to me. It just put me off and made me feel like there was no point taking the nonsense some people were throwing at me. Hopefully the introvert site wouldn't be like that.
barrysanders
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i would love to join this introvert site! I have trouble making friends , and i always feel awkward in social situations. I really feel like i could benefit from this and am really looking forward to possibly being able to join.